“Brave, clear-eyed, compelling and powerful, I’m the One Who Got Away is a riveting story of love and survival. Andrea Jarrell is an uncommonly fine writer whose gritty realism is matched by the rigor and elegance of her prose. This is a wonderful debut.” 

—Dani Shapiro, author of Hourglass and Still Writing


Fugitives from a man as alluring as he is violent, Andrea Jarrell and her mother develop a powerful unusual bond. Once grown, Jarrell thinks she’s put that chapter of her life behind her—until a woman she knows is murdered, and she suddenly sees that it’s her mother’s choices she’s been trying to escape all along. Without preaching or prescribing, I’m the One Who Got Away is a life-affirming story of having the courage to become both safe enough and vulnerable enough to love and be loved. 

Andrea Jarrell’s work has appeared in The New York Times, The Washington Post, and many other popular and literary publications. She earned her BA in literature at Scripps College and her MFA in creative writing and literature at Bennington College. A Los Angeles native, she currently lives in suburban Washington, D.C. 

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"Why I've Quit Writing About My Children," The Washington Post

"Lost," Cleaver Magazine

"I Was a 52-Year-Old (Thanksgiving) Virgin," Role Reboot

"52 Firsts In 52 Weeks: My Year Of Living Dangerously," The Huffington Post

"The Problem With 'Best Friends' Forever," The Huffington Post

"What We Don't Say," My Other Ex: Women's True Stories of Leaving and Losing Friendships, Editors Smock and Strenger 

“Star Quality,” Washingtonian Magazine

“Steering Clear,” Brain, Child Magazine

“Halloween RIP,” The Washington Post 

“On the Miracle Mile,” Cleaver Magazine

“A Measure of Desire,” The New York Times "Modern Love" Column

“Fresno 1982,” Narrative Magazine

“Lice Season,” Literary Mama 


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